Wednesday, October 3, 2012

Real or Fake?

  I was reminded of a truth this morning that I just need to share.  What did Abraham, David, Samson, Rahab and Peter all have in common?  What do you think?

Why does God show us all of their flaws?  They are all God's people?  Wouldn't be better if we didn't know about the lying, adultery, treachery, prostitution and turncoat? Doesn't God want to show us perfect Christians?  Think about that one for just a minute and rest right there.

Beth Moore says it this way, "The weakness of God's children do not strain the strength of God". Why or why precious one do we walk into church and become happy plastic people when we are surrounded by lying, adultery, treachery, depression, alcoholism and pornography.   You get the picture.

Of course the answer is pride.  Pride causes us to walk into church and behave as if our lives are perfect.  Could it be that God will not use us as instruments of His until we take the mask off and become real?  I stand in awe each week when real people share real hurts.  It is when the veil is lifted that we can really see God work mighty things.

I keep thinking about all the knowledge and wisdom found in the older women of any congregation you step into.  Yet, there is very little talk about the struggles they have gone through. The silence is deafening. Don't you want to know what they would do differently if they had raised their children differently?  What about marriage.  If you struggle in your marriage, wouldn't you to love to know from an older godly woman who did not have a story book marriage how she not only survived but thrive?

These thoughts continue to swirl around in my head.  I don't know if it is pride that challenges us to keep silent.  I have a feeling that Satan wants us to keep quiet about the struggles we have gone through. Why? Easy, Satan wants us to feel alone. He wants us to think we are the ONLY ones going through "junk" In fact, he wants us to get so discouraged we just stop coming, then stop praying, the stop opening our Bibles etc. etc. etc.

This is a battle we women face.  Risky to become real, isn't it?  What will women say when we tell them life in our homes is not what others think?  What if they knew we are battling alcoholism, or adultery?  What if our husbands are addicted to porn and we suffer in silence.  What would the church look like if older women chose to become really real?  

This has bugged me for a very long time.  I want to be real.  When I wrote about pit dwelling I wondered what people would think but I knew I had to be open and share what I have learned.  I want to not only learn from my mistakes but I want to be open enough that people will see the sin I struggle with and come alongside me to overcome.  I want to help younger women to flourish in their marriages and their other relationships.  I want them to feel comfortable to come to me because I will be real with them.

LORD, please use this message to help someone who is struggling to be real.  In Jesus name. AMEN!

In Christ Alone,

Be the kind of woman that when your feet hit the ground each morning Satan says, "Oh crud, she's up".


  1. Could it be that the fear (maybe from experience) that one will find, rather than love, forgiveness, and support, judgment and ostracism?

  2. I should have added...keeps one from being 'real'?